It’s hard as parents to keep finding ways to connect with our kids and ask them about their days. There are even apps for that!

So here are a few suggestions (in addition to these apps, which I haven’t yet used) that I know are proven to work.

Yes or no?

Ask open-ended questions that can’t be answered with a simple yes or no.

Instead of “How was your day?”, suggest “Tell me about your day,” and wait for them to share at least one story from it. Don’t just allow “It was fine” as an answer.

Don’t talk


You wouldn’t think this has to be repeated and written in capital letters like I am yelling at you. But it does.

Put down your phone, book, paper or whatever distraction there is for at least 5 to 10 minutes each day after school or around dinner time and just listen to your child tell you about their day.

They will realize that you really do intend to listen, even if it’s just about the little things … and this will make them more likely to want to talk to you about the bigger things in life when you REALLY want them to talk to you and to know that you are there for them.

Read more of this blog post at Motherbility where I share more tips and tricks that I use daily!